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The Tool We All Should Be Using

The Tool We All Should Be Using

The Reframe: a tool that may not be so easy, but it’s really simple. In this interactive episode, therapist Melody Murray shares her brilliance with members of the Forty Thrive community, as she answers questions and inspires us all to reframe in a way that will bring more peace, understanding and sanity to our lives. 

Melody is the very first guest of our Forty Thrive live series. Each month, we record one episode where we include our Forty Thrive community members and podcast supporters.

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Mentioned in this Episode: A Lesson in Blowing Up Your Life

About Our Guest: Melody Murray is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Child Mental Health Specialist in private practice.  She also works as a Mental Health Evaluator in the ER at Seattle Children’s Hospital and co-facilitates Suicide Assessment and Treatment trainings for the nursing staff. Melody has a wide variety of expertise, often speaking on topics including: Suicidal Ideation, Self-Care, Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs), Mental Health & Social Media and Secondary Trauma.  

Melody is a solution-focused clinician with a direct, casual, yet interactive approach. She helps clients learn positive ways to manage negative thought patterns, unwanted behavioral responses, process experiences that create fear, shame and sadness. Melody’s goal is to help her clients love and accept themselves again OR, for the very first time.

Before becoming a therapist, Melody spent several years working in film, television and casting as a producer and director.  She was also an actor, hosted a children’s show and performed standup comedy.  

Melody has a Master’s degree in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University, Los Angeles.  She’s a member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists as well as the Producers Guild of America.

You’re Invited: Join Forty Thrive and Melody Murray for a special workshop called Who Are You? We dive into our Family of Origin which will help us begin to understand HOW we are WHO we are. This exercise helps us explore the Nature vs Nurture theories of who we become and why. Are we the sum of all our intentions and choices? Or are we destined to stay a certain way because of the choices made by the people who raised us? In this workshop, you’ll get tools to help the real you bust through and come out on the other side of reinvention. REGISTER HERE

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It’s Your Time

It’s Your Time

If you’re a woman who’s excited to see what’s next… maybe make a pivot in your career… or even (dare I say) put yourself out there, today’s guest can help you big time. Juju Hook helps “primetime women” (that’s us!) build brands. In this episode, we talk “Breakthrough Breakdowns,” six lies we’ve come to believe about aging, the 50 hour rule and so much more.

Join us for Forty Thrive LIVE! Once a month, you’ll have an opportunity to join other Forty Thrive listeners for a live interactive podcast recording. Visit our Patreon page for more info!

About Our Guest: Juju Hook is a consultant, coach, and speaker. For more than a quarter century she developed brand strategy for corporations. Today, through online programs, live events, and one-to-one coaching, Juju motivates, inspires, and educates PrimeTime women in topics related to business, life, and relationships. She holds a BA in English and an MBA, and is certified as a coach and a yoga teacher. Juju lives in San Diego with her husband and her son. You can find her branding blog at and her program for PrimeTime women at Connect with Juju on Facebook, LinkedIn and Instagram.

Get Juju’s book : Hot Flashes, Carpools, and Dirty Martinis: The Quintessential Guide for Turning Midlife Into PrimeTime

Mentioned in this Episode:

Amy Porterfield on Forty Thrive

Fumiko Takatsu on Forty Thrive

Face Yoga Method 6 Week Bootcamp

Join Juju for these two LIVE events! 

1. LIVE 90 Minute Masterclass on January 27th, 2021

Answer Questions Like…

  • How do I build a presence?
  • How do I build a platform? 
  • How do I get people to listen to me?
  • Can I shift from a brick and mortar to go online? 


2. If you’re ready to up your game  — you know you’re meant for great things and ready to take the leap toward it, Juju is hosting PrimeTime PROSPER– The 3-Day Interactive Online Experience.

During this event, you’ll work individually and in small groups to turn your “something special” into something truly sellable You’ll create a plan and design a platform for reliable, sustainable income doing what you love. REGISTER HERE

Who Are You Really?

Who Are You Really?

As we wrap up the year, I’ve got an episode for you that’s short, sweet and impactful. Janet Ioli is the author of Less Ego More Soul: A Modern Reinvention Guide for Women and the creator of 2021 Power Presence Practices calendar journal. Both of which she’s generously giving away to one of our lucky Forty Thrive listeners.

Have you ever seen those posts where people choose a word that sort of serves as their compass for the year to come? I love choosing a word each December . Something that inspires me to try new things and have new experiences. My word for 2020 was Connection. Little did I know that circumstances would make that a little bit more difficult. But it was a great reminder when things got crazy that I could still create connection, it just might look a little different. 

My word for 2021 is CURIOSITY. My plan is to come from a place of curiosity. To hear people out. To discover things about myself that I maybe haven’t yet tapped into. What’s one word you’ll carry into 2021? Pop into our free and private FB group and share in the dedicated post I created there. In fact, when you comment on that post, you’ll be entered to win both Janet’s book, Less Ego More Soul, as well as her 2021 Power Presence Practices calendar and journal. 

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About Our Guest:

Janet Ioli has been helping people and organizations make changes and maximize their impact for over 25 years. As a former leader inside four Fortune 200 companies, she understands first-hand the complexities and realities leaders face leading their organizations. 

Grounded in real experience working with thousands of leaders in different industries and countries and having provided over 10,000 hours of coaching, Janet has earned a reputation as an extraordinarily talented, highly results-oriented and sought-after leadership coach, change strategist, speaker, and organizational advisor. Forbes has recognized Janet as one of the country’s leading business coaches with membership in the Forbes Coaches Council. 

Janet’s wealth of practical experience is backed by continuous and robust educational substance and focus, in addition to thousands of hours of self-study in psychology, leadership, change, neuroscience, and human development. She has master’s degrees in both Public Administration and Business, an undergraduate degree in Business, and has extensively studied Human Development and Adult Learning at the Doctoral academic level. Janet also holds a certification from the National Board of Medical Examiners as a health and wellness professional. Janet is certified as a Professional Certified Coach by the International Coach Federation and has an Advanced Executive Coaching Certificate from the Smith School of Business and a Certificate in Positive Psychology and Well-being Coaching. 

Janet partners with major universities as an industry expert in women’s leadership— she is on the faculty of American University’s Key Executive Leadership Program for government leaders and is a designer and speaker for the University of California at Irvine’s Women in Leadership Certificate Program. As a recognized thought leader on leadership, self-development, and change, Janet is a contributor to Forbes and Thrive Global. She is the author of The Cure, Power Presence for Women, and Less Ego, More Soul.

Connect with Janet on LinkedIn, Twitter and Instagram

A Delightful Little Episode on Aging

A Delightful Little Episode on Aging

We don’t often hear the words “delightful” and “aging” in the same sentence, but today, we’re changing that. Stephanie Raffelock is the author of A Delightful Little Book on Aging. (She Writes Press, April 2020). A graduate of Naropa University’s program in Writing and Poetics, she has worked as a freelancer for The Aspen Times and The Rogue Valley Messenger. She’s also written and blogged for Nexus Magazine, Omaha Lifestyles, and, to name a few.

The new co-host of Yak About Today, Stephanie can be heard on i-Heart Radio, station WCZR 101.7 in Florida. Or you can listen to the podcast version, available wherever you get your podcasts.
Stephanie is a popular public speaker for Employment Relations Groups. She talks about the changing issues of midlife women. She’s given keynotes for Breaking the Glass as well as Charles Schwab.

A recent transplant to Austin, Texas Stephanie enjoys an active life with her husband, Dean and their Labrador retriever, Mickey.

Connect with Stephanie on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn


You’re Not Fearless (And Why That’s a Good Thing)

You’re Not Fearless (And Why That’s a Good Thing)

Dr. Michele Cooley-Strickland is not only is she brilliant at what she does as a psychologist, researcher, professor and podcaster, she’s actually masterful at adding and subtracting things to her life when she wants more — or less –– and not settling for meh. 
In this episode, the multi-faceted, multi-talented and multi-passionate Dr. Michele inspires and provides step-by-step tools to take the leap into the life you truly want. If you don’t yell “hell yeah” at least a dozen times during this interview… well, I just don’t believe you. 
About Dr. Michele: Michele Cooley-Strickland, M.Ed., Ph.D. is an award-winning licensed psychologist, professor, researcher, and podcast co-host. She’s been on faculty at UCLA since 2009 and is a Project Scientist in the David Geffen School of Medicine in the Department of Psychiatry and Bio-behavioral Sciences. She’s also been on faculty at Johns Hopkins University since 1996, first as an Assistant Professor, then Associate Professor, and now Adjunct Associate Professor in the Department of Mental Health in the Bloomberg School of Public Health. Dr. Michele is a therapist in her private practice – Doctor Michele, LLC – specializing in helping people – women in particular – build life skills that empower them to become their best selves. Her personalized approach is tailored to help each client achieve emotional and behavioral health and wellness in a way that’s authentic, sustainable, and joyful. Dr. Michele has appeared as an expert psychologist on KTLA-5 (Los Angeles) and the nationally syndicated Extra! television show as an Extra! Life Changer. She has also appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show, NBC’s Today Show, CNN, and CBS Early Show to discuss her family’s relation to our third American president, Thomas Jefferson. Dr. Michele is the seventh generation descendant of Thomas Jefferson and Sally Hemings. Dr. Michele is the co-host of “The She Built It Podcast with Melanie & Dr. Michele,” which began in January, 2019 and airs in over 40 countries. The weekly show targets women to help them take leaps in their life, career, and community.

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Listen and Take Action

Listen and Take Action

Those who know me best know I am a huge fan of uncomfortable conversations. (I’m sure there are some who don’t love that about me.) But I feel that growth and connection comes from rolling up our sleeves and getting comfortable being uncomfortable.

On this episode, I invite three women I admire greatly for a conversation about race as a woman (and sometimes mom) over 40. How can we better understand each other? What’s the best way to take action? Join us for an honest conversation that’s meant to help us understand each other and work together to improve our neighborhoods, communities and beyond.


About Wendy Rose Berry:

Wendy Rose Berry (CEO) of conditionHER, a company that promotes only the best care for down there. With their new intimate skincare line, they are also hoping to break down the associated taboos by sparking and elevating the conversation surrounding intimate care. 

Wendy is a mom and self proclaimed “employed entrepreneur.” She’s a Manager in TV publicity for a major entertainment company with an entrepreneurial spirit and innovative ideas, most of which are still sitting in notebooks waiting to be activated, but the idea for conditionHER is one she and her business partner just couldn’t let go.

About Melody Murray Parks:

Melody is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Child Mental Health Specialist in private practice.  She also works as a Mental Health Evaluator in the ER at Seattle Children’s Hospital and co-facilitates Suicide Assessment and Treatment trainings for the nursing staff. Melody also does presentations on topics including: Suicidal Ideation, Self-Care, Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs), Mental Health & Social Media and Secondary Trauma.  

About Rocki Howard:

Rocki is a Senior Leader for a global recruitment process outsourcing firm by day. She has interviewed thousands of people in the span of her 30 year recruitment career. She has certifications in project management, HR and lean methodologies. During the day her love for people’s special brands of crazy have translated into her being named Global Manager of the Year and being acknowledged as one of the top 100 Global Minority Executives by EmPower 2 years running. Rocki’s passion around empowering women has resulted in her launching the Grown Woman Life platform where her mission is to highlight, engage, educate and inspire bold, brilliant, badass professional women over 40 with the goal of changing the narrative on what it means to be a professional woman over 40.

Check out ConditionHer! Whether you’re bare or prefer hair, this moisturizing cream keeps your intimate area pH balanced, fights ingrown hairs, chafing, and helps alleviate skin irritation after waxing, lasering, sugaring or shaving. Founded by guest Wendy Rose Berry and business partner Eugenia Marshall.

Mentioned in this episode: 



Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz

Buy from a Black Woman

I Take Responsibility

A Lesson in Blowing Up Your Life with Melody Murray Parks

How to Be Bold, Brilliant and Badass over 40


Be You, But Better

Be You, But Better

Are you at a crossroads? Are you trying to figure out what’s next What if there were a way to understand your strengths to help you maximize those next steps?

There is. 

Today’s guest is a certified Gallup Strengths Coach who is here to help us thrive in business and our personal lives through the power of knowledge.

About our guest: Jenny Ketchepaw currently serves as the Vice President of Talent Engagement for a local bank where she manages Training and Leadership Development. She has been working in the financial industry for 22 years, serving in various leadership capacities. Jenny is a certified Gallup Strengths Coach.

About Gallop: The Gallup Strengths Assessment is a powerful tool that helps individuals identify, understand, and maximize their strengths. People that focus on their strengths are more likely to be engaged in their jobs and more likely to report having an excellent quality of life. Most people try and fix their weaknesses but by taking a Strengths Based approach and focusing on what you do well you have exponential success in those areas. We all have natural talent. The idea is to tap into that talent and invest time and energy into what comes naturally to us to really build our strengths. There are 33 million combinations of your top 5 Gallup strengths so truly nobody is as good as you are at what you. There are 34 talent themes total. We are all uniquely different and the more we can capitalize on those differences, the more successful we are in levering our talents on our teams.


The Coping Technique that Will Change Your Life

The Coping Technique that Will Change Your Life

Sometimes there are moments in life that feel like they were created by an act of divine intervention.
This is one of them.
I read this blog post by Dr Rachel Barbanel-Fried (AKA Dr. RBF) entitled Things That Bend Won’t Break. It really spoke to me at a time I needed it. Little did I know, it would become the mantra for getting through the next several weeks for all of us. 
If there is one episode you may need right now, it’s this one. Right here. For you. 

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About the guest: Dr. Rachel Barbanel-Fried, aka Dr. RBF, is a clinical psychologist, writer, and optimal performance consultant based in Newton Centre, Massachusetts. She consults with executives and organizations looking to elevate performance and reach new levels of success in the workplace and beyond. She also sees individuals, couples, and families in a therapeutic setting who are looking to move forward towards growth, change, and healing. Dr. RBF utilizes an evidence-based, collaborative approach. She’s direct, down-to-earth, and non-judgmental, specializing in working with people from diverse backgrounds. She is also a consultant with the Flow Research Collective, a peak performance research and training organization. 
Some of my favorite quotables from this episode:
“The best exercise is whatever you like.”
“Take the moment of suck and come up with other options.”
“People are not broken, we may feel broken.”
“We all think that whatever happening in our heads is true.”
“The feeling itself is just a feeling but then we get caught up in our judgement of feelings, that’s when we get stuck.”
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What Will You Do with the Time You Have Left?

What Will You Do with the Time You Have Left?

When I discover a woman’s voice — especially over 40 — who has found an impactful, creative way to share her story through the power of podcasting, I can’t help but yell it from the rooftops. Now more than ever, elevating each other’s voices is hugely important. 
I met Nikki Boyer probably 7 or 8 years ago when she was involved with a TV show I was working on. Nikki’s an Emmy Award winning TV host, actress, voice over artist…and life coach. 
You may recognize her from Wendy Williams show, Access Hollywood, countless TV shows or on Straight Talk with Ross, the podcast she co-hosts. But it’s her new 6-episode podcast series, Dying for Sex that we’re going to dive into today. 

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About Nikki Boyer:

In my 20 years in the entertainment field, I learned that my favorite part about interviewing people was creating a connection and having meaningful, deep conversations.  With my life experience and certified life coaching tools, I’d love to help you through challenging times as well as expand your experiences. Talking about your most vulnerable thoughts is powerful.  So often we push those thoughts aside to protect us from fear. 
We can work on creating a safe space, getting clear about what you want out of life, and changing your mindset.  I believe that together we can communicate and work in a way that frees you up to make space for new habits and new ways of thinking.  
Together, we will Talk it Out. 
About Dying for Sex: 
When host Nikki Boyer’s best friend Molly is diagnosed with Stage IV breast cancer, she decides to do something bold. She leaves an unhappy marriage and embarks on a series of sexual adventures to feel alive.