Welcome to Thrive in 40, a quick tip to kick start your week — in forty seconds or less. This week’s tip is provided by… Psychotherapist Melody Murray Parks.
Sometimes we take on things that have nothing to do with us. I do this thing called X it out. You make a list of all the things that are on your mind, everything that’s causing any kind of feeling or emotion, just write it down: My kid has autism, I could get fired, my husbands overweight, I can’t pay the rent, all that stuff that’s in your mind, write it all down. Put a big X over the shit you have zero control over. You can’t do something, and then put your energy into things that you can do.
Welcome to another episode of Thrive in 40, a quick tip to kickstart your week, in 40 seconds or less.
In this episode, creative coach, midlife mentor and founder/host of Forty Thrive, Jackie MacDougall, shares a life lesson she learned from a pair of seagulls.
Recently a popular ’80s band was playing nearby so a flock of us decided to go. It’s been 30 something years since their heyday and you could certainly feel it. In fact, they played one of their popular songs a second time because they kind of bombed the first time. But what stood out to me most was that they showed up anyway; they didn’t say, “Oh no one will come” or use their age as an excuse. Not only was the room packed at the end of the concert, people were lined up to meet them to buy an overpriced bobble head.
This is a lesson in not overthinking it, or comparing yourself to a younger version; just do the damn thing you want to do because life‘s too short to let it pass you by.
This might not only be one of my all time favorite podcast conversations…but one of my favorite conversations — period. If you’re ready to get real… raw and work through some of the pain you’ve been holding onto, THIS is the episode for you.
But don’t be fooled — it’s also filled with a whole lot of laughs and some seriously colorful language. So headphones are a must if you’re at work or around the littles. ‘Cause in this episode, we #sharetheshit
Meet Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Melody Murray Parks. Not only does Melody work as a mental health evaluator in a Seattle ER while also running her own private practice, she’s also had an eventful career in TV, worked as an actor, hosted a children’s show and performed standup comedy. Two minutes after meeting Melody, you’ll be all “of course she did.”
Plus, Melody answers questions from the Forty Thrive community:
How to deal with anxiety
How to deal with being laid off
Are women in midlife over medicated? Why?
About Melody: I am a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Child Mental Health Specialist in private practice. I also work as a Mental Health Evaluator in the ER at Seattle Children’s Hospital and co-facilitate Suicide Assessment and Treatment trainings for the nursing staff. I also do presentations on topics including: Suicidal Ideation, Self-Care, Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs), Mental Health & Social Media and Secondary Trauma.
I am a solution-focused clinician with a direct, casual, yet interactive approach. I help my clients learn positive ways to manage negative thought patterns, unwanted behavioral responses, process experiences that create fear, shame and sadness. I help my clients love and accept themselves again OR, for the very first time.
Before becoming a therapist, I spent several years working in film, television and casting as a producer and director. I was also an actor, hosted a children’s show and performed standup comedy.
I have a Master’s degree in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University, Los Angeles. I am a member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists as well as the Producers Guild of America.
I am currently writing a book on Adolescent Suicidal Ideation.
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The other thing I announced last week — I am really stoked about. THRIVER of the WEEK!
Each week, I’ll be featuring one woman from the Forty Thrive free and private Facebook community as our Thriver of the Week. One of the things I most love is that our Thriver is SELF submission only. What does that mean? It means you gotta get over the fear of being too extra and show up and tell us all about what makes you so damn special. I know it’s tough for a lot of women to embrace that badass, confident side so I think it’s awesome how many women have nominated themselves for this honor. To nominate yourself, go HERE.
This week’s THRIVER of the WEEK is…Heather Stewart
At the age of 44, I started taking improv classes at Second City Hollywood. Not because I want to act or needed to take classes, simply because it sounded fun and I had an affinity for it. I’ve been going non-stop since Feb 2018. I have had to do my first auditions (ever), get headshots made (just to move up in levels) and have found SO MUCH JOY! I began my graduation process by presenting an original sketch show with 7 other super talented women. We’re called Jane Fonda’s Cellmates because it’s the first title someone came up with that made us all laugh hysterically. We’re arrestingly funny. I took a chance and did something because I thought it would be fun. Did I think about my age? Of course. Did it stop me? NOPE!
Find a way to do the things that bring you joy regardless of how old you may be!
And if you’re in the LA area and want to check out Jane Fonda’s Cellmates in person, CLICK HERE.
Weeeee! Today is quite a day to be a Forty Thrive podcast listener! It’s the very first day of our 10 days of giveaways! Over the next 10 days we’ll be featuring some incredible products and services created by women-owned and operated businesses that are sure to help you thrive!
Amy Smith is a certified confidence coach, masterful speaker and personal empowerment expert. Amy serves as founder of TheJoyJunkie.com where she uses her roles as coach, writer, podcaster and speaker to move individuals to a place of radical personal empowerment and self love. Amy’s highly sought after for her uncommon style of irreverence wisdom and humor.
In celebration of the Forty Thrive podcast’s first anniversary, today is Day #1 of Forty Thrive’s 10 Days of Giveaways. Over the next 10 days in the Forty Thrive free and private Facebook group, we’ll be featuring women owned and led brands, as well as a few extra treats from some special friends!
Today’s featured gift!
The Sosi Leone convertible backpack is the perfect bag for modern, on-the-go, and professional women who want to carry their laptop and other daily essentials with ease and style. Its sleek design makes it easy to match with professional, casual, and active outfits, so you can wear it for multiple occasions throughout the day.
Are you ready to knock the fuzzy socks off the final days of 2019? Are you ready to kick some serious tail in 2020? If you answered yes, this episode is for you.
Let’s do this!
The days of running on autopilot are over, my friends. I am here to help you get really clear on living with intention. What you do with that information is completely up to you. In this episode, we’re creating your own personal mission statement. I’m tellin’ ya, this is a total game changer and can help you face tough decisions and overwhelm head on.
PS Don’t miss our Forty Thrive first anniversary and holiday celebration!
In this amazing gift guide, I will feature one item each day. It could be something to make you feel good or look good or even move forward in your career, or even face hard times in a meaningful way.You will see what I’m talking about when we launch it. You will see what I’m talking about when we launched the gift guide.I have carefully curated this gift guide and each day you’ll have the chance to win the item we feature. But here’s the catch. You have to be in the Forty Thrive Facebook group to win.So if you’re not in the They’re already make it happen. It’s free. It’s private, and we’re giving stuff away.
Don’t forget to join us in the private and free Forty Thrive community on Facebook and share this episode with a friend. You know the one she’s ready to make things happen, and together, we can help her. Until next time, take care and keep thriving.
Starting over is nothing new for the ladies in the Forty Thrive community. New careers, new cities, new relationships and so many other big changes are taking shape. Diann Wingert is no stranger to starting over. The former therapist turned life coach recently uprooted her entire southern California life for a new adventure in Portland, Oregon. Hear what she thinks are the three things every woman over 40 must know and do before making a huge, life-altering change.
After two decades of being a successful therapist, Diann changed walked away from her private practice to become a masters level certified coach, helping women over 40 ditch their excuses,discover their courage and go after their most audacious goals. Diann passionately believes that this stage of life is the most powerful, if we are willing to let go of whatever is holding us back. Diann’s powerful combo of expertise on the midlife brain and menopause, coupled with her own unique personal experience makes her the go-to resource for women 40+.
Personally, since turning 40, Diann has gotten divorced, raised her three children to adulthood, embraced Buddhism, traveled the world, gone skydiving, studied German, remarried and became a first time entrepreneur. Now in her 6th decade, Diann is looking forward to continuing to learn, evolve and defy her own limits.
Do you feel like you’re spreading yourself too thin? Are you feeling exhausted and depleted because you’re constantly saying yes, even when you don’t want to?
You’re not alone. Women everywhere, including in the Forty Thrive community, share how fatigued, stressed out and overworked they often feel.
But what if we decided — together — for this month of November only, to say NO when we’re asked to add another thing to our never-ending to-do list?
In this week’s episode, Jackie talks with Christine Sarno, a business coach, advertising and sales powerhouse and Jackie’s BFF. Together they throw down the “NO-vember Challenge,” a 30-day challenge to say NO to the things that don’t serve you, your goals and your inner peace.
In this episode, Jackie and Christine discuss:
[5:05] Why women are often people pleasers
[8:30] Christine’s message to women feeling victimized by their circumstances
[9:06] Discussion on Diann Wingert’s insight into the menopausal brain
[11:08] Christine’s parent influence
[12:00] Christine talks about being her mom’s advocate
[13:35] What can you say “NO to this month?
[16:20] We don’t always have to say yes to everything
An award winning sales and advertising powerhouse, Christine Sarno bring her business degree to 20+ years of leadership experience in media, promotions and tech to both corporate and start-up environments.
Christine has worked closely with clients across a broad range of industries that include both Global Fortune 500 and Fortune 100 companies.
As a proven sales strategist, savvy negotiator, deal closer and skilled problem solver, Christine can confidently sift through the clutter to catalyze a clear, effective strategy, and help any client solve their largest, most pressing challenges.
It’s my ongoing work as a career mentor, helping others identify what’s truly preventing them from finding success, and teaching them how to face the fear with self-empowerment, where I’ve found my true niche and life’s calling.
I am a self-proclaimed “Tiger Daughter”, raised to be strong, driven and self-motivated in my quest for personal and business achievement. I strive to support and advise clients with authenticity, encouragement, and a dollop of tough love.
I’ve got your back and will tell you what you need to hear. You deserve honesty. It’s integral to your success.
A single mother of two beautiful children who bring me immeasurable joy in this world, I understand the highs and lows of life and appreciate the privilege of learning from failure versus regret. I have the strength to get up and move forward again, and truly understand the blessing of a little luck.
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When Jackie walks into the wrong room at a conference, she finds exactly what she needs — and more. Hear the story and find ways to get yourself unstuck. Hint: Your mindset has very little to do with it.
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Dia Bondi is a communications powerhouse who shares her brilliant way to help women like us not only ask for what we want, but actually get it. (Hint: it’s like nothing you’ve ever heard before)
About Dia Bondi
For the last 20 years, some of the most extraordinary world leaders, CEOs, philanthropists and innovators have considered Dia their secret weapon. Over thousands of coaching sessions, she’s helped them tap into their power and move their businesses forward.
Dia helped Rio secure the 2016 Summer Olympics. Her clients include a wide range of organizations in technology and beyond. She’s coached changemakers at the Clinton Global Initiative and the Commonwealth Games Federation.
In 2018 Dia Launched Ask Like An Auctioneer, a project to help 1MM women ask for more and get it using the mental model and frameworks from the world of Auctioneering. Her drive is to help women be more courageous in how and what the ask for, gain a sense of control and confidence in their negotiations so they can reach their goals faster.
Dia is a SheEO activator and sits on the Development Board for The Coaching Fellowship, accelerating extraordinary women leaders in social impact. In 2016, she took up the mic as an auctioneer to maximize fundraising for non-profits benefiting women and girls. Dia is direct, magnetic, fierce and insatiably curious — and she’s passionate about helping women succeed.
Each week, I work extremely hard to connect women over 40 with experts and resources to help enhance your life, provide practical tools and maybe inspire and motivate you to create the best freaking life ever.
It’s also important to me that I share my own personal experiences and struggles, because I know if I’m struggling with it, maybe you are too.
This week, I had an amazing interview scheduled to share with you. And I will — soon. But I’ve decided to live by example and make a decision that I desperately need, and may actually be a lesson you need to hear.
I’d love to hear from you. Is there something in your life you need to say “not today” to?